I had forgiven him for what he has done. That's why I am at peace with myself and I am able to help others heal. It wasn't easy. Learn to forgive then you can move forward into the life you were destined for.
#findpeace #speakout #learntoforgive #DV
Tuesday, March 31, 2015
Monday, March 30, 2015
Effects on Children
What are the effects of Domestic Abuse on Children?
More than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes every year.
Children who live in homes where there is domestic violence also suffer abuse or neglect at high rates (30% to 60%).
Children exposed to domestic violence at home are more likely to have health problems, including becoming sick more often, having frequent headaches or stomachaches, and being more tired and lethargic.
Children are more likely to intervene when they witness severe violence against a parent – which can place a child at great risk for injury or even death.
Please do it for your kids. I am experiencing a lot with my kids. I been away from the relationship for almost 8 years and I am still being constantly reminded that I should of left earlier. My kids are 16 and 15 boy and girl. I see so much of him in my son I can scream sometimes. Like seriously. But, all I can do is take it one day at a time. That's what I'm trying to do. I want to encourage you to start planning your way out. Save your kids from thinking this is normal. We need to break the cycle on abuse.
#speakout #doitforthekids #fight #protect #live
More than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes every year.
Children who live in homes where there is domestic violence also suffer abuse or neglect at high rates (30% to 60%).
Children exposed to domestic violence at home are more likely to have health problems, including becoming sick more often, having frequent headaches or stomachaches, and being more tired and lethargic.
Children are more likely to intervene when they witness severe violence against a parent – which can place a child at great risk for injury or even death.
Please do it for your kids. I am experiencing a lot with my kids. I been away from the relationship for almost 8 years and I am still being constantly reminded that I should of left earlier. My kids are 16 and 15 boy and girl. I see so much of him in my son I can scream sometimes. Like seriously. But, all I can do is take it one day at a time. That's what I'm trying to do. I want to encourage you to start planning your way out. Save your kids from thinking this is normal. We need to break the cycle on abuse.
#speakout #doitforthekids #fight #protect #live
Thursday, March 26, 2015
What is your fear?
What is it that you are afraid of? What is holding you back from becoming the person you want to be? Is it the negative thoughts that you think about everyday, or the lack of hope of leaving. Everyday, if you wake up and say I can and I will overcome whatever is it I need to overcome to be the person I want to be. Just try to start thinking positive and see what happens in your life.
#youcanandyouwill #survive #speakout #joinme
#youcanandyouwill #survive #speakout #joinme
Tuesday, March 24, 2015
Stop the Cycle
The Full Cycle of Domestic Violence: An Example
A man abuses his partner. After he hits her, he experiences self-directed guilt. He says, "I'm sorry for hurting you." What he does not say is, "Because I might get caught." He then rationalizes his behavior by saying that his partner is having an affair with someone. He tells her "If you weren't such a worthless whore I wouldn't have to hit you." He then acts contrite, reassuring her that he will not hurt her again. He then fantasizes and reflects on past abuse and how he will hurt her again. He plans on telling her to go to the store to get some groceries. What he withholds from her is that she has a certain amount of time to do the shopping. When she is held up in traffic and is a few minutes late, he feels completely justified in assaulting her because "you're having an affair with the store clerk." He has just set her up. Know the signs and get help. This is not normal. I am not just someone who sits behind a computer and talk. I am to encourage you to leave the relationship and if your not ready then your not ready. I can give you advice and be that listening ear. I am not here to judge. Help stop the cycle. #fightingagainstabuse #DV #endthecycle
A man abuses his partner. After he hits her, he experiences self-directed guilt. He says, "I'm sorry for hurting you." What he does not say is, "Because I might get caught." He then rationalizes his behavior by saying that his partner is having an affair with someone. He tells her "If you weren't such a worthless whore I wouldn't have to hit you." He then acts contrite, reassuring her that he will not hurt her again. He then fantasizes and reflects on past abuse and how he will hurt her again. He plans on telling her to go to the store to get some groceries. What he withholds from her is that she has a certain amount of time to do the shopping. When she is held up in traffic and is a few minutes late, he feels completely justified in assaulting her because "you're having an affair with the store clerk." He has just set her up. Know the signs and get help. This is not normal. I am not just someone who sits behind a computer and talk. I am to encourage you to leave the relationship and if your not ready then your not ready. I can give you advice and be that listening ear. I am not here to judge. Help stop the cycle. #fightingagainstabuse #DV #endthecycle
Friday, March 20, 2015
Speaking Out.
Next week starts a new journey for this organization. I am nervous but excited at the same time. I am going to keep pushing until a change happens in our community. I got an email back from the government but, that email is not going to stop me. According to God's word he said, I can do all this through him who gives me strength .If that isn't powerful enough I don't know what is. My voice is going to be heard. I am so tired of men and women getting away with abuse and they aren't doing anything about it. But, we are emotionally, physically and verbally abused. It scars us so bad it hurts to even talk about it. I am going to be the voice for those who are afraid to speak out. The government don't know what's going on in these streets. They think they do. These laws they have put in place isn't working and they know that. The last law that was passed back in 2003 well, I tell you what since 2003 a lot has happened and it's getting worse, So, what now? Then they have all these celebrities they are paying to speak on abuse. Are they out in our community to find out what they can do change what is going on? Please, your just a celebrity. We don't need to have a celebrity status to make a change in the world. I may have some setbacks and things may not go right but, I am going to fight for what is right. I am a victim of abuse. I am going to be heard. You can go and like my page to keep up with Finding Faith Within. #makeachange #imnotperfect #raisingawareness #DV
Monday, March 16, 2015
Do you feel Isolated?
Has anyone experienced Isolation abuse?? I have.
Isolation is a pivotal tactic that controlling partners use in order to weaken their victims, prevent them from hearing others’ perspectives, and to bring them into line with his own beliefs and requirements. Often possessiveness and jealousy play a part in some men’s motivation to isolate women from social contact with friends and family. Some tactics aimed at isolating the victim include telling her that she cares more for her friends, family and pets than for him, telling her he’s the only one who understands her and loves her, controlling incoming information including what she reads, calling her names if she spends time with friends and family, purposefully moving towns or countries, and there are a whole lot more tactics that women describe below in interviews from my Masters research. If you are experiencing this just know it is a sign of abuse. If you are afraid to talk to your friends or family about, you can contact me through my website or private message me. I am here to talk to you. One thing I can not do is force you to leave. You will know when your ready. I am here to encourage you that you can leave and no one should feel isolated their entire lives. Life is about happiness and love. If you really can't do it for yourself do it for your kids....
#fight #protect #live
Isolation is a pivotal tactic that controlling partners use in order to weaken their victims, prevent them from hearing others’ perspectives, and to bring them into line with his own beliefs and requirements. Often possessiveness and jealousy play a part in some men’s motivation to isolate women from social contact with friends and family. Some tactics aimed at isolating the victim include telling her that she cares more for her friends, family and pets than for him, telling her he’s the only one who understands her and loves her, controlling incoming information including what she reads, calling her names if she spends time with friends and family, purposefully moving towns or countries, and there are a whole lot more tactics that women describe below in interviews from my Masters research. If you are experiencing this just know it is a sign of abuse. If you are afraid to talk to your friends or family about, you can contact me through my website or private message me. I am here to talk to you. One thing I can not do is force you to leave. You will know when your ready. I am here to encourage you that you can leave and no one should feel isolated their entire lives. Life is about happiness and love. If you really can't do it for yourself do it for your kids....
#fight #protect #live
Wednesday, March 11, 2015
We need to be heard....
Women and Men I am encouraging you to speak out today. It has gotten to the point to were the system is failing us. Everyone still have fear to speak out and stand up for what's right. It's not fair that these men are not being punched for their actions. They put them in jail for a couple of days and that's it. What good is that doing? All they are doing is making it easy for them to hurt another man or woman. As long as we stay silent nothing is going to be done. I am going to continue this fight because it was not fair what happened to me and he is just walking around like nothing has happened. I want to have justice for other men and women. Do they understand that our kids are watching us go through this? Do they understand that our girls see us crying every night because we have so much fear to do anything abut it? Do they understand how much control they are giving these men or women to feel like its ok to keep doing this? It's not fair that we have to continue to live in fear. They really don't understand the control that these or women have over us. They don't understand that our lives depend on what we do or say on a daily basis. They don't understand our pain. Help me to raise awareness on Domestic Violence. #ourvoiceneedtobeheard
#weareworthy #endingdomesticabuse #standupforwhatsright
#weareworthy #endingdomesticabuse #standupforwhatsright
Tuesday, March 10, 2015
Start Planning
Another reason people never leave an abusive relationship is reliance on the abusive partner.
Lack of Money:
Your friend may have become financially dependent on their abusive partner. Without money, it can seem impossible for them to leave the relationship.
Nowhere to Go:
Even if they could leave, your friend may think that they have nowhere to go or no one to turn to once they’ve ended the relationship. This feeling of helplessness can be especially strong if the person lives with their abusive partner.
Disability:
If your friend is physically dependent on their abusive partner, they can feel that their well-being is connected to the relationship. This dependency could heavily influence his or her decision to stay in an abusive relationship.
If any of these reasons is the reason you haven't left you need to start planning. Start by looking for a part time job and if he ask say, I am tired of staying at home and I want to help us say money so, we can go on family trips or do more with the kids. Come up with something where he will believe you. Play his game. If you need to talk or have questions. Leave a comment or PM me. I am here for you. I am not the judge your higher power is. Visit my website at findingfaithwithin.org
#letsspeakout #endingdomesticabsuee
#nomatterwhoitis
Your friend may have become financially dependent on their abusive partner. Without money, it can seem impossible for them to leave the relationship.
Nowhere to Go:
Even if they could leave, your friend may think that they have nowhere to go or no one to turn to once they’ve ended the relationship. This feeling of helplessness can be especially strong if the person lives with their abusive partner.
Disability:
If your friend is physically dependent on their abusive partner, they can feel that their well-being is connected to the relationship. This dependency could heavily influence his or her decision to stay in an abusive relationship.
If any of these reasons is the reason you haven't left you need to start planning. Start by looking for a part time job and if he ask say, I am tired of staying at home and I want to help us say money so, we can go on family trips or do more with the kids. Come up with something where he will believe you. Play his game. If you need to talk or have questions. Leave a comment or PM me. I am here for you. I am not the judge your higher power is. Visit my website at findingfaithwithin.org
#letsspeakout #endingdomesticabsuee
#nomatterwhoitis
Monday, March 9, 2015
Being Pressured
The second reason people stay in abusive relationship is pressure.
Social/Peer Pressure:
If the abuser is popular, it can be hard for a person to tell their friends for fear that no one will believe them or that everyone will take the abuser's side.
Cultural/Religious Reasons:
Traditional gender roles can make it difficult for young women to admit to being sexually active and for young men to admit to being abused. Also, your friend’s culture or religion may influence them to stay rather than end the relationship for fear of bringing shame upon their family.
Pregnancy/Parenting:
Your friend may feel pressure to raise their children with both parents together, even if that means staying in an abusive relationship. Also, the abusive partner may threaten to take or harm the children if your friend leaves.
Please don't let any of these reasons keep you in that relationship because in the end you are really hurting your self and your children. I am a witness to that. I have 2 children and if I had the faith to leave sooner I would have. If you need encouragement or just someone to talk too. Don't let me be a stranger behind this page. I want to connect with you and talk to you. Again, I not here to judge anyone. I am here to help and provide resources to get you to where you need to be.
#speakout #fight #protect #live
#letsenddomesticabuse #letyourvoicebeheard
If the abuser is popular, it can be hard for a person to tell their friends for fear that no one will believe them or that everyone will take the abuser's side.
Cultural/Religious Reasons:
Traditional gender roles can make it difficult for young women to admit to being sexually active and for young men to admit to being abused. Also, your friend’s culture or religion may influence them to stay rather than end the relationship for fear of bringing shame upon their family.
Pregnancy/Parenting:
Your friend may feel pressure to raise their children with both parents together, even if that means staying in an abusive relationship. Also, the abusive partner may threaten to take or harm the children if your friend leaves.
Please don't let any of these reasons keep you in that relationship because in the end you are really hurting your self and your children. I am a witness to that. I have 2 children and if I had the faith to leave sooner I would have. If you need encouragement or just someone to talk too. Don't let me be a stranger behind this page. I want to connect with you and talk to you. Again, I not here to judge anyone. I am here to help and provide resources to get you to where you need to be.
#speakout #fight #protect #live
#letsenddomesticabuse #letyourvoicebeheard
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