Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Kids Matter

When it comes to my kids I struggle everyday with the fact that I should have left out of the relationship earlier. I see a lot of anger in both of my kids. My son has lived with his dad until he turned 13. I see so many things in him that I see in his dad it is so scary. My daughter anger comes from the fact she wish she had a relationship with her dad. Everyday I am challenged with something. I feel like Im fighting against something. But, I don't know what is. How can you fight something you don't know what your fighting against? I know it sounds silly. But, it true. Im trying to build a relationship with them so they can understand my side of the story. Again I don't know what he has told them. If it is one thing I can tell a mother with kids. Please think about your kids and how it is affecting them. Believe it or not they see everything. My advice to you is start planning your way out. It's not fair to them. If you can't find a reason to leave think about them. Their life matters too.
‪#‎joinme‬ ‪#‎kidsmatter‬ ‪#‎Istruggle‬ ‪#‎togetherwestand‬ ‪#‎DV‬

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Learn to Forgive

I had forgiven him for what he has done. That's why I am at peace with myself and I am able to help others heal. It wasn't easy. Learn to forgive then you can move forward into the life you were destined for.
‪#‎findpeace‬ ‪#‎speakout‬ ‪#‎learntoforgive‬ ‪#‎DV‬

Monday, March 30, 2015

Effects on Children

What are the effects of Domestic Abuse on Children?
More than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes every year.
Children who live in homes where there is domestic violence also suffer abuse or neglect at high rates (30% to 60%).
Children exposed to domestic violence at home are more likely to have health problems, including becoming sick more often, having frequent headaches or stomachaches, and being more tired and lethargic.
Children are more likely to intervene when they witness severe violence against a parent – which can place a child at great risk for injury or even death.
Please do it for your kids. I am experiencing a lot with my kids. I been away from the relationship for almost 8 years and I am still being constantly reminded that I should of left earlier. My kids are 16 and 15 boy and girl. I see so much of him in my son I can scream sometimes. Like seriously. But, all I can do is take it one day at a time. That's what I'm trying to do. I want to encourage you to start planning your way out. Save your kids from thinking this is normal. We need to break the cycle on abuse.
‪#‎speakout‬ ‪#‎doitforthekids‬ ‪#‎fight‬ ‪#‎protect‬ ‪#‎live‬

Thursday, March 26, 2015

What is your fear?

What is it that you are afraid of? What is holding you back from becoming the person you want to be? Is it the negative thoughts that you think about everyday, or the lack of hope of leaving. Everyday, if you wake up and say I can and I will overcome whatever is it I need to overcome to be the person I want to be. Just try to start thinking positive and see what happens in your life. 
‪#‎youcanandyouwill‬ ‪#‎survive‬ ‪#‎speakout‬ ‪#‎joinme‬

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Stop the Cycle

The Full Cycle of Domestic Violence: An Example
A man abuses his partner. After he hits her, he experiences self-directed guilt. He says, "I'm sorry for hurting you." What he does not say is, "Because I might get caught." He then rationalizes his behavior by saying that his partner is having an affair with someone. He tells her "If you weren't such a worthless whore I wouldn't have to hit you." He then acts contrite, reassuring her that he will not hurt her again. He then fantasizes and reflects on past abuse and how he will hurt her again. He plans on telling her to go to the store to get some groceries. What he withholds from her is that she has a certain amount of time to do the shopping. When she is held up in traffic and is a few minutes late, he feels completely justified in assaulting her because "you're having an affair with the store clerk." He has just set her up. Know the signs and get help. This is not normal. I am not just someone who sits behind a computer and talk. I am to encourage you to leave the relationship and if your not ready then your not ready. I can give you advice and be that listening ear. I am not here to judge. Help stop the cycle. #fightingagainstabuse #DV #endthecycle

Friday, March 20, 2015

Speaking Out.

Next week starts a new journey for this organization. I am nervous but excited at the same time. I am going to keep pushing until a change happens in our community. I got an email back from the government but, that email is not going to stop me. According to God's word he said, I can do all this through him who gives me strength .If that isn't powerful enough I don't know what is. My voice is going to be heard. I am so tired of men and women getting away with abuse and they aren't doing anything about it. But, we are emotionally, physically and verbally abused. It scars us so bad it hurts to even talk about it. I am going to be the voice for those who are afraid to speak out. The government don't know what's going on in these streets. They think they do. These laws they have put in place isn't working and they know that. The last law that was passed  back in 2003 well, I tell you what since 2003 a lot has happened and it's getting worse, So, what now? Then they have all these  celebrities they are paying to speak on abuse. Are they out in our community to find out what they can do change what is going on? Please, your just a celebrity. We don't need to have a celebrity status to make a change in the world. I may have some setbacks and things may not go right but, I am going to fight for what is right. I am a victim of abuse. I am going to be heard. You can go and like my page to keep up with Finding Faith Within​. #makeachange #imnotperfect #raisingawareness #DV

Monday, March 16, 2015

Do you feel Isolated?

Has anyone experienced Isolation abuse?? I have.
Isolation is a pivotal tactic that controlling partners use in order to weaken their victims, prevent them from hearing others’ perspectives, and to bring them into line with his own beliefs and requirements. Often possessiveness and jealousy play a part in some men’s motivation to isolate women from social contact with friends and family. Some tactics aimed at isolating the victim include telling her that she cares more for her friends, family and pets than for him, telling her he’s the only one who understands her and loves her, controlling incoming information including what she reads, calling her names if she spends time with friends and family, purposefully moving towns or countries, and there are a whole lot more tactics that women describe below in interviews from my Masters research. If you are experiencing this just know it is a sign of abuse. If you are afraid to talk to your friends or family about, you can contact me through my website or private message me. I am here to talk to you. One thing I can not do is force you to leave. You will know when your ready. I am here to encourage you that you can leave and no one should feel isolated their entire lives. Life is about happiness and love. If you really can't do it for yourself do it for your kids....
‪#‎fight‬ ‪#‎protect‬ ‪#‎live‬